If you’ve been wanting to join the Men’s Group, good news! There are two openings for new members in our Men’s Interpersonal Process Group.
This men’s interpersonal process group can help you get more real, more honest with yourself and others propelling you into deeper relationships and deeper success through challenge and support by other men. It is a real-time lab, where you will experience yourself and others with greater awareness and be able to try new behaviors and ways of relating to being more effective in your life.
All topics and goals are welcome. Common themes are anger, depression, anxiety, personal identity, masculinity, relationships with women and/or other men, assertiveness, sex/sexuality, disconnect from emotions, work problems, fatherhood, confidence/self-esteem, accountability, honesty, spirituality, and finding purpose and meaning in life.
This group has been running weekly for the past 5 years facilitated by Chuck and over a decade prior to that facilitated by a psychologist who retired passing it on to Chuck. The long-running stability, diversity of age, background, and experience of the members, and experience of the facilitator are rare.
The ideal man will have had previous or current experience in therapy or other personal growth, but motivation and desire for greater self awareness will also enable you to benefit if this is your first growth experience.
All men are welcome in this group. You are welcome with all of your struggles, your gifts, your challenges, your gender, your sexuality, your personality, your pain, your shame, your questions, your desires.
All of you are welcome here! Tuesday Evenings 5:00-6:30
$50 per group. 8 week minimum commitment, but most people will want to continue on long term for the support, authentic relationships, and unique opportunity to grow with a safe, established, circle of men and trained, experienced, professional facilitator.
Facilitated by: Chuck Hancock, M.Ed., LPC. Chuck has over a decade of experience participating in and leading men’s groups, experiential groups, therapy groups, wilderness groups, interpersonal process groups, ritual and rites of passage programs, and teaching college courses. Chuck is highly trained in treating trauma, mindfulness, somatic therapy, and is a member of Colorado Group Psychotherapy Society and a perpetual student of intrapersonal and interpersonal relationship patterns.
(Men in this context means male/masculine identifying person)
1 month Thursday lunchtime online zoom meeting
March 26 – April 26, 2020. Thursdays @ Noon.
In all my work with men – be it as clients, in men’s groups, close friends, or family, the number one consistent theme that causes the most stress (even with men who have everything else they want) – successful career, hobbies, friendships, etc.), is having successful relationships with women* (women meaning female/feminine identifying person).
If you have have this struggle, (or maybe don’t currently have it, but find yourself in cycles in your relationship where this comes up from time to time) and still haven’t learned how to resolve it, you owe it to yourself and the women in your life to carve out an hour a week to learn how to better relate to the feminine. You probably know how good it feels to be in a healthy, satisfying relationship. And you probably know how bad it feels to be in a poor, unsatisfying, or unhealthy relationship.
This course will empower you to become the skilled and competent leader for healthy relationships in your life and in your romantic partnership.
In this lunchtime online Zoom meeting we will:
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Learn losing strategies and winning strategies for healthy relationships
Learn practical relational skills for more connected, peaceful, and rewarding conversations
Learn skills for managing conflict
Learn how to de-escalate when tensions, stress, or anger get high
Learn how to identify and regulate emotions with you and your partner
Begin to identify the relational patterns that cause problems between you and others
Learn how self-esteem, self-care, and how you treat yourself show up in relationship
Be fully present and engaged with mind and body with mindfulness and awareness exercises
Learn the difference between co-dependence, self reliance, and interdependence
Explore healthy sexuality in relationship
Learn to take personal responsibility for what is ours, and set boundaries around what is not
Practice in real time to build skill and confidence in your ability to apply them with women
Relationship is a full contact sport! It takes our full presence, awareness, and training to properly utilize our primary relational tools – our mind, our heart, and our body. There are many great books and podcasts to give you the knowledge you need, but you can’t just read a book or listen to a podcast and know these things and expect to have better relationships. Actually practicing these tools and concepts with other men, giving and receiving feedback, and then utilizing them during the week with your partner will accelerate your learning and skill level. This course is packed with information to help you understand the why, effective tools to implement in your relationship, and it also includes a brief amount of time to practice in the safety of Zoom breakout rooms with other men. If you can communicate using these tools with other men, you can do it with women.
We will become a community of support for you as you learn and apply these tools and concepts. You’ll be given handouts with specific instructions and key ideas each week to ensure you can have the support you need in real time, in your pocket.
Why study relationship skills with me?
I’ve been participating in and leading men’s work for almost a decade, as well as practicing as a psychotherapist. Just as important as my professional experience and credentials, my life experiences as a husband, father, son, brother, and friend and shaped me most, trying and sometimes failing at practicing what I teach. Before becoming a therapist, I was a software engineer who grew up in the south with all of the rules about being a man. Many of them were misguided and not helpful. My world was ruled by logic and reason alone. I was involved with lots of groups, I played sports, studied martial arts, and was smart and successful, but I struggled with relationships. Nobody taught me how to relate effectively and how to have the courage and strength I needed to be honest with myself and others. I understand the world of men and talking to men about relationships can be different than talking to women. I’ve studied the best authors, researchers, and practitioners in the field such as the Gottmans, Relational Life Therapy with Terry Real, Ester Perel, Emotionally Focused Therapy, as well as the most important relationship topics such as attachment, somatic trauma work, sex therapy. In addition to all the theoretical knowledge, studying finely attuned somatic psychotherapy such as Hakomi and IFS as well as very somatic and non verbal forms of martial arts, jiu-jitsu, and dance have taught me even more about the dance between direct assertiveness and receptive attunement. Even with this breadth of knowledge and understanding, there are still days where I struggle and get tripped up, just like anyone else. Having references, ongoing support, and accountability to using these tools is essential when we stumble. So I’ve taken the best tools from these experts, translated them into real life applications and created this course so you get to be your authentic self. You won’t sound like you are communicating from a script, you will be honest and authentic, and you can immediately use these ideas and tools to shift your stance, become your own leader, and improve the way that you relate with women so you can get started right away with healthier relationships.
I’ll show you how to live and embody a strong masculine relational stance – one that is wise, compassionate, active, effective, open, receptive, and can handle anything that comes your way.
Investment of Your Time and Money
This course is designed for anyone to use their one hour lunch break, once a week, for one month from the convenience of their phone or computer to skyrocket their relational skills. No travel time. No excuses.
$50 per session. 1 hour per week. 4 week commitment.
However, if you haven’t decided your skills and relationship are worth the investment, here’s how I’ll make it even more worth your while:
Sign up by March 2nd and pay only $40 per session
Attend and participate in all 4 sessions so I know you have the built the foundation, have the necessary background information and you are invested in your relational life, and you will be invited to attend a free bonus meeting where I’ll answer your questions, go into further depth of any topic covered, and provide coaching about a specific relationship issue you have, if you choose.
If you are ready to commit to improving your relationship skills for yourself and your partner, sign up by March 2nd and for only $160 you will get 5 weeks of instruction and an opportunity to get direct coaching and feedback on a relationship issue you are facing. This brings your cost to only $32 per group! Consider that is a 5 hour program for the price of ONE individual therapy or coaching session.
If you are hesitant or late to commit, don’t worry. You can still get all 5 sessions for $200. Still a great deal! You, your partner, your relationship, and your life satisfaction are worth it.
Course Outline
March 26 – April 26, 2020. Thursdays @ Noon.
Week 1
Setting the Foundation
Communication Basics
Healthy Interdependence vs Codependence, enmeshment, or self-reliance
What is Your Relationship Dream?
Practice and Homework
Week 2
Creating Safe Secure Relationships (as opposed to anxious, avoidant, or distant relationships)
De-escalating conflict and stressful conversations
Emotional Intelligence
Practice and Homework
Week 3
Turning Up The Heat – Appropriately, Skillfully, and Wisely
Giving and Receiving Feedback
Getting What You Want, Getting What You Need
Male Sexuality and Pornography in Relationship
Practice and Homework
Week 4
Bigger Picture and Moving Forward
Repairing After a Regrettable Incident
Self Leadership and Relational Leadership – Achieving Balance in Thinking, Feeling, Being, and Doing
Practice and Homework
Week 5 * (Bonus for those who engaged and participated in all 4 prior sessions)
Review and Diving Deeper With Previous Topics
Questions and Discussion
Live Coaching on Your Personal Situation Challenge
These are just the highlights and main themes of the course. You can be assured we will pack much more into each hour we spend together. If you are not convinced you need this, ask your partner and get their feedback. Or if you have a specific need or question about the course, reach out to [email protected].
Registration and Preparation
When you are ready to commit, there are four steps to take:
Be sure you have reserved 12:00 MST on your calendar for the meeting dates. We will start and end on time. There is a lot of material to cover, so be sure you arrive on time with your technology ready to go.
I look forward to connecting with you and learning how to be a stronger, more relational man together.
Facilitated by: Chuck Hancock, M.Ed., LPC, EMDR II. Chuck has over 9 years experience participating in and leading men’s groups, experiential groups, therapy groups, wilderness groups, interpersonal process groups, ritual and rites of passage programs, and teaching college courses. Chuck is highly trained in treating trauma, mindfulness, somatic therapy, and is a member of Colorado Group Psychotherapy Society and a perpetual student of intrapersonal and interpersonal relationship patterns.
Download a printable flyer below to share with someone who could use this course.
Men’s Mental Health – Restoring Healthy Balanced Men: Through Balancing Thinking, Feeling, Being and Doing. Talk given for the Health District of Northern Larimer County Colorado on 2/27/19.
This talk discusses some of the issues related to gender, especially masculinity and how they can impact men’s mental health. A framework for self assessment as well as ideas to create more balance are explored.
This is an introductory talk to raise awareness on the issues related to men’s mental health and healthy masculinity. To dive deeper, consider working with me individually or joining a men’s group that I offer or elsewhere in your community.
If these 4 modes of Thinking, Feeling, Doing, and Being speak to you and you want to dive deeper into them on your own, this is a good readable reference: The Four Archetypes of the Mature Masculine: Introduction. Sometimes the language of archetypes doesn’t resonate for people, and that is fine. Just substitute Thinking, Feeling, Doing, and Being and there is good information to be had.
Don’t miss this rare opportunity to be a part of this long established men’s group. This group has intelligent, committed men, some of whom have been working together for years. For more information, see the flyer below and contact Chuck today to schedule a free group screening appointment to see if you would be a good fit for this group to be able to grow with other men.
Download and share this flyer with a man you know could benefit.
